The real raw truth is that most of us are not comfortable with Love. We think we want it and we evaluate ourselves by the love we feel or don’t feel. We make decisions based on love. Most of the time we are looking for love from other people. We seek to please to get love. We base our value on the love we receive or don’t receive.
Ultimately, we seek that love from others because of a deep internal feeling. We may know what the feeling is or we might not know so we try to find someone or something to fill that deep internal longing, desire or emptiness. It doesn’t matter how successful we are in life, how much money we have or how many good things we have, there is still a deep internal desire for more, or actually for something deeper.
We look for love and connection to erase pain that is deep inside. We know the pain is there but we don’t really understand what causes it or why it is there. It is just pain, pain that is so deep we are scared to actually touch it. Sometimes we don’t even know the pain is there because we try to do things to ease the feeling we have and therefore we numb the pain and reality. We are afraid to look deeper because of fear of what we might find.
The problem is most of the time we don’t actually connect with what is deep within us. We are scared to connect or don’t know how. We allow things to get in the way of connecting.
The love we are looking for is actually Love and Acceptance from ourselves. Most of us don’t actually know how to do that because we don’t know how to connect with ourselves, with our deep inner core being, the eternal of us, the part that always was and always will be. Sometimes we connect for a little bit or we connect to some level, but then distractions veer us away.
Life is a journey and so much of the time we miss the journey because of life. We miss the important part of the journey. Nothing surpasses deep inner connection with ourselves and then to dare to love ourselves. But when we do at first it is almost painful because it is so beautiful, so deep, so healing. Then we start to feel that love and we allow it to seep deeper and deeper. And every drip of love seeping deeper inside soothes and we find it becomes easier to become more vulnerable.
Jesus said, Love is the greatest commandment. He also said to love one another as you love yourself. We cannot love others well until we learn to love ourselves.
TIP: Take all the negative things in your life and place them out in front of you (so they no longer take up space inside you), keep doing this until you have placed everything in front of you. Now since it is all out there notice it represents some kind of image. Notice the image and now move that image out to the end of your driveway. Since all the negative things are out at the end of your drive you are now with yourself and take sometime to focus on who you are. Allow yourself to connect with the depth of your core being.